How to create own space in our shared world

By Gil delos Santos

It's been a year since this blog get a last update. Quite an interesting ride - many things fall into place beautifully, more natural genuine smile to life, more places and life exploration, more new friends for life, more understanding about human nature and general life, more life to life.

Today seems a regular day but actually more meaningful than it used to. To wake up in the right side of bed is something that we always look forward to. Now all possible to happen, every single day...unless it'd be something physically beyond our control. The power of mind is magical that can turn "nothings" into something by just putting good thoughts on it. I always campaign for this: "It is all about perspective how we look at something that makes this world/life beautiful or the otherwise". A magnificent view will look useless to people who do not realize its value. A positive situation will always look miserable to someone who is miserable inside.

From time to time, we cross paths with these people who are consistently complaintive or reklamador about everything in life. We could always find them everywhere and they come in different extent. This kind of energy is toxic. If we don't do anything about it, it could eventually infect us if we're weak and become one in time especially if they're always in our surrounding - someone in the same office we share with, or a friend, a family member, or anyone whom we closely see everyday. They might have the poshest stuff and everything, fanciest clothing, most luxurious lifestyle but they might miss a circle of life-loving happy people in their life. That's sad. If we are not this person, we can help them. 

We all live in the same world that is shared by everybody. That "don't care" attitude do not have a place in the happy place. Do not get stuck in one corner to watch others enjoy life and wait for mistakes because that's what makes you happy. Don't be a loser fault finder.

If we value respect and a SPOT in the society, office, family, or wherever; there is a ladder of understanding to climb up through:

Balance.

It is something that we need to deeply understand. It is the universe' way of reminding us about boundaries and general responsibilities. The difficult situation that arises from time to time could be a result of mishandling our impulse getting into uncertain territories or being too complacent - not responsibly responding to personal general obligation and responsibilities. Whatever we do, or do not do correspond an effect. Equilibrium - the law of balance.

Excellence.

In this competitive world whether in the office; business, etc., individual result is always the unspoken criterion to get noticed or be reckoned with (unspoken because it is a given truth and culture). That's how someone or something stands-out from the competition. Excellence could come in a manner or a process how something is being done...and ultimately in the form of result. How do we achieve this? Attention to detail it is. It should come from the inner motivation. If we want to be the best, excellence is the only way. Let me share how I personally describe excellence - it is an ambitious goal put into action by not being lazy. It is as well a personal commitment, not  an obligation to fulfill.

Reciprocity.

I see this as the most valuable life principle. If people or even strangers are nice to us, it only means that we have the kind of energy that makes them respond in the same manner. Don't wonder why others are mean. Possibilities are: first, they are personally miserable inside. Second, we don't make an effort to be nice to them. That's scientific. Whatever we give out to the world subconsciously comes back around. 

Class.

Professionalism delivered with grace - class it is. We don't even need to say a word for them to feel and see this. Respect is all we get in return.

Reality Check.

Before we start ranting, look around; think. Are we being realistic with our complains? Seeing the whole picture is the sensible and prudent way before letting go an impulse. We, most of the time tend to close-mind in some issues because of self-belief attached to self-convenience. 

Take It Slow.

Mistake occurs mostly when things are rushed up - that is known. The one thing that is not very known to many is that on how our body respond to adrenalin. Let me tell a story. I meet a few people having a rushy lifestyle. Like when they're given an hour lunch break, they'd race against the clock; finish the food in 10 minutes max, jump into bed immediately after. At the end of work hours, here comes the complain that the belly is growing - making them unhappy. We will not find it surprising as well during the day murmuring about their eating habits, blaming themselves for anything if not others, etc. What we don't know, all these negative thoughts circling around our head transpire into our veins; into our skin, into our face, into our belly. Why not eat slow, talk slow, and just enjoy everything that we do in a calm manner? That creates happy hormones, that makes us feel good after.

Accommodate.

We feel great if we make someone happy. We feel conscious with our actions if someone we dislike watches. Where does the dislike come from anyway? We might not like their personality, their ways, their choices, their preferences, their lifestyle because it doesn't fit ours. What can we do to patch this up? If we don't care of patching up, we will forever be miserable inside because we live in the same world with them. What we would want to do is just try to accommodate. Anyone could come from a different culture, could come from a different environment, could come from a different up-bringing. They might not understand some of our ways too, so to be friends with everyone; we just try to accommodate their beliefs, their flaws. They're not perfect and so are we. 

Be Sensitive.

It always feels good to share our little achievement and personal pride in life, but when we do; make sure we have ears willing to listen in return too. People loose interest in one sided world. We might as well to consider to choose which information worth to share only because exaggeration sometimes make us look stupid instead of wanting to be impressive. 

If we struggle liking a person who happens to be a constant part of our everyday life, try this trick that I personally practice. It works.

WITH MEN: 

Start with questions (of course sensible ones), carry-on until he feels you're interested 

WITH WOMEN:

Start with a compliment (of course honest ones), carry-on until she feels great about herself

WITH BOTH SEXES:

Start being appreciative like simple "Thank you" for anything, carry-on until it becomes a habit 

If we do this with sincere intentions, our most hated person can turn to be a potential best friend in time. We would have so many new friends if this becomes a habit.           

Once we have all this understanding, our mindset becomes the change that we want the world to be. It all starts from there. If someone in your way is toxic, just bless them with your new, calm assertive energy and class. You'd be proud of yourself what you could get in return in time.

This is how we create our own spot in the universe.