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Choose own self first

By Gil delos Santos

No one can make us feel better but our own decision. Life is short and being run by choice. Take no pain in taking-in radical changes. It usually takes you to unfamiliar, uncomfortable zones but it's where opportunities are mostly created.

The things that are gone are gone. Focus on the present reality and think of yourself before others. That's not selfishness, it's the wiser version of yourself. Even on actual emergency situations, you need to put on your own oxygen mask before you offer assistance to others. Remember what your flight attendant tells you when you fly?

You cannot give or offer yourself when you're not wholly complete. You might end up taking some part of them instead, to make you feel complete. Get total composure before you extend yourself to others.

If at some point I become quiet, that's when I try to reestablish composure by giving a time to care for myself, not that I detest on something. I let people be...unless they're blocking my way. In that case, I become a football player. I kick balls lol. 

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